My youngest child is adopted. My husband's sister is her birth mother. She is 10 yrs old and we have had her since she is 11 months. Her birth mom did drugs and drank while pregnant. She has all the symptoms for ODD. She has a very nasty attitude and no punishment works with her. She throws tantrums when she doesn't get her way. We never raised her to get her way based on that kind of behavior. Rewarding her does not work and makes her behavior worse.
I don't want to put her on medication. She is causing issues with my husband and myself. He thinks its all me and she is not the problem. He thinks I cause the problems with her. I don't know if mediations are the way to go or not. We have tried taking her to therapy but she tells them what they want to hear and seems to get worse when she is in therapy.
Any suggestions you can offer would be greatly appreciated.
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