I think my boyfriend may have delusional jealousy. We have been together for over a year and his jealousy has always been an issue. Its getting worse as time goes on and it has become violent. He constantly questions me on my whereabouts and who I have been with. He outright accuses me of sleeping with random people I dont even know or worse with his brother, cousins or father! Its is completely irrational.
Most of the time it comes out of nowhere and is crazy in nature. He has woke me up out of my sleep before asking where Ive been when I hadn't been anywhere. He also makes up lies hence the delusions...he will say I saw you do this or that---none of which are true. He questions any male I come into contact with. Most of the time the things he says are outright lies, which leads me to believe he is also a compulsive liar. He will say he saw with this man or that man which is a complete lie.
I have never, ever been unfaithful to him but I believe others in his past have been which adds to his anxiety I think. It became violent the other night and he was arrested for assault. That night there was no talking sense to him. He tells me he can't help how he gets when those thoughts start brewing in his head, he cant control them. other times he speaks of harming himself for my supposed infidelity.
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