I am a lesbian who has been in an on and off relationship with a woman Sara throughout this past year. In the meantime, Sara was in a relationship with another woman Elizabeth on and off throughout the year (they had been in a relationship about 7 months before mine started). Supposedly Sara had ended that relationship two months ago. Recently, I learned that Sara had still been seeing Elizabeth, but had mostly been sleeping with her. Sara has since started counseling, as have I. We both have learned things about ourselves, but are currently not in a relationship together and do not talk. I still love her and miss her and wonder if she and I will ever be able to be back together in the long-term future. I have been in the process of recovering from codependency and she from some addictions. It is clear that the recovery process will take a long time for both of us. I just wonder if it is ever possible for someone like Sara to recover and to be able to be in a serious long-term relationship since she has struggled most of her life with one (she's 40). What do you think?
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